DEAR ABBY: A number of members of my husband’s household allow us to down badly by not attending our daughter’s marriage ceremony. They’d numerous work and different household commitments near the date of our occasion. Save the date playing cards had been despatched out six months in the past, however we had been clearly decrease on their precedence record. I’ve expressed to my husband my need to not ship vacation playing cards this yr as a result of I now not really feel comfy with these relations.
Then, whereas I used to be touring for work, he purchased playing cards, printed a letter with footage, had it signed by each of us, and despatched it to most of his household and a few of our mutual mates. I first heard about it from a good friend who thanked me for the cardboard and images a month later. I mentioned it with my husband and obtained an apology, however I am nonetheless shocked and saddened. what do you assume— STILL BREAKDOWN
DEAR, STILL ENGAGED: Though you did not need to ship vacation playing cards to the relations who missed your daughter’s marriage ceremony, your husband clearly did not really feel the identical method. He had a proper to do what he did. Repeat after me: A marriage invitation will not be a command efficiency. Now depart it.
DEAR ABBY: I’m estranged from my nephew and really feel dangerous that our relationship has deteriorated. We stay in numerous international locations. He has a psychological sickness and refuses remedy.
As a revered skilled at work and at residence, I’m upset that my nephew is aggressive and demeaning to me in public and in non-public. How can I take the trail of reconciliation and the way do we all know when self-defense is the one affordable plan of action? — SAD UNCLE IN FLORIDA
DEAR UNCLE: You might be fortunate to be geographically distant out of your mentally in poor health nephew. It is lower than you to repair it. Till he receives psychiatric remedy for his sickness, his habits is not going to abate and there shall be no reconciliation. In a case like this, self-defense is probably the most smart plan of action.
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend and I acquired a beneficiant present card from my brother and sister-in-law to a restaurant we love. Subsequent week the 4 of us may have dinner collectively there. My query is concerning the etiquette of utilizing such a present card. Ought to we use it that evening or plan to not use it? If we use it and there may be an extra, do now we have to pay to my brother’s account? I do know my brother will not be bothered or offended both method, however I am curious concerning the “proper” option to go about this and would recognize your recommendation. — WONDER OF THE SOUTH
DEAR WONDERFUL: If my mail is any indication, some folks get offended if somebody they break up an account with makes use of a present card as a substitute of a bank card or money. That is why it by no means hurts to ask this query of the particular person becoming a member of you earlier than I’ll the restaurant.
Pricey Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, aka Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or PO Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
